Everything and everyone is here and then GONE. GONE. GONE.
We don't know WHEN.
You can spend your life trying to figure out WHY. It is no better or worse vocation than any other I suppose.
I have spent a significant amount of my life terrified and healing from the great goodbyes.
My friend just lost his brother. He wrote to me, "You would have liked him Melissa." I'm so sad for my friend. I know he is hurting. I want to touch every living soul and tell them they are worth loving.
Instead I am being loving.
And a little needy I guess... mostly because I am recognizing how profoundly loss and pain and grief affect us all.
We can celebrate our joys. We can use this message to GRAB ON and LIVE LIFE FULLY. We can remember that no one gets out of here alive. It is a terminal track and the ONLY guarantee is a sure death. And our only CHOICE is make it easier for others as they go.
We can choose to be kind. We can choose to live in love. We can chose to be honest. We can choose to forgive. We can laugh when the mood strikes. And we can be serious when not.
It is ok. We can be FULLY ourselves.
And right now my *self* is sad for my friend's who are grieving and for myself a little. I fear more losses and I am unable to remove pain. And I am hurting.
It is our human-ness. We are fragile and beautiful and amazing. It makes us so utterly important. We spend every day forgetting and ignoring and distracting. Life is precariously amazing and easy to overlook.
Death is such a sucker punch. And it is so much to live FULLY and enjoy life when those around us are succumbing every day.
I am sorry that I have forgotten this. Thank you for sustaining me.
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Every time I do a funeral, I say that the pain of grief is the cost of love. It means pain is inevitable - but it is much better than life would have been without the love.
ReplyDeleteDeath is inevitable, and so is grief - but neither of those things should take away from all the wonderful things this life has to offer.